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Infidelity and Grief Coaching

After betrayal, or after loss — support for the part nobody prepares you for.

Two different kinds of pain, held in one programme because the ground underneath them is the same: something you relied on is gone, and the ordinary advice people offer does not reach it. This is unhurried work. Nobody here will tell you to move on, to forgive by a deadline, or to be grateful it was not worse.

Ask us about this programmeHow sessions run

At a glance

Format
Individually, or as a couple — often both, at different stages
Session length
60 minutes (90-minute sessions available for disclosure work)
How often
Weekly at first, spacing out as things steady
Typical commitment
Varies widely — this is not a fixed-length programme
Cost
Intro call: freeSession rates are confirmed on your intro call.Sliding scale available — no one is turned away for cost.

Who it is for

You will recognise yourself here

None of these need to apply exactly. If one is close enough that you nodded, that is enough to start a conversation.

  • Couples deciding whether to rebuild after an affair — together or separately
  • The partner who was betrayed, who needs their own space to think
  • The partner who betrayed, and wants to do more than apologise
  • Anyone carrying a bereavement, a miscarriage, or a loss nobody else is naming
  • People grieving something that was never publicly acknowledged

What you work through

Inside infidelity & grief

Not a syllabus we impose — a set of themes we move between depending on what you bring.

  1. Telling it once, properly

    Most people have told the story in fragments, to listeners who flinched. The first sessions are usually about saying the whole of it out loud to someone who will not change the subject.

  2. Deciding, without being rushed

    After an affair the pressure to decide quickly comes from every direction. We slow that down. Staying and leaving are both real options here, and neither is the outcome we are steering you toward.

  3. What rebuilding actually requires

    If you choose to rebuild: what genuine transparency looks like, why reassurance stops working, how long trust realistically takes, and what the partner who broke it has to carry.

  4. Grief that does not follow the stages

    Grief is not a sequence you complete. We work on living alongside it — anniversaries, triggers, the guilt of a good day — rather than on finishing it.

  5. When a loss reaches the marriage

    Couples often grieve at different speeds and in different registers, and each reads the other way of coping as not caring. Naming that difference prevents a second loss on top of the first.

  6. Knowing when you need more than coaching

    Both of these can sit alongside trauma, depression or suicidal thinking, which are clinical matters and not ours. We watch for that openly, and we will say so and help you find the right person.

Questions

About infidelity & grief

Something not covered? Ask us — there is no obligation attached to a question.

Ask a questionGeneral FAQ
Is coaching the right thing after an affair, or do we need therapy?
It depends on what is happening. Coaching suits couples who are functioning but stuck on what to do next. Where there is trauma, ongoing deception, abuse, or either of you cannot get through a day, that is clinical ground and we will say so and point you to a licensed professional. See our coaching disclaimer for the line we work to.
Can I come on my own if my partner will not?
Yes, and many people do. You can work on your own clarity and your own decision without them in the room.
Will you tell us to stay together?
No. We are not here to save the marriage at any cost, and we are not here to talk you out of it either. Our job is to help you decide with a clear head rather than in the middle of the worst week.
Is there a time limit on grief?
No, and anyone who gives you one is wrong. People come to us weeks after a loss and people come years after. Both are normal.
My loss is not one people treat as serious. Does it count here?
Yes. Miscarriage, a pregnancy that did not continue, estrangement, the end of a long friendship, a loss you were expected to be over — grief that goes unacknowledged is often the heaviest, precisely because nobody made room for it.

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Infidelity & Grief

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