The Peaceful Couples Programme

A structured six-week course in de-escalation and repair.

Our most practical programme, and the one to choose if conflict is the main problem. Six structured sessions, each teaching one specific skill you practise at home during the week. Less insight, more technique — for couples who already understand the problem and want to know what to do in the moment.

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At a glance

Format: Both partners together, by video or in person
Session length: 6 weekly sessions of 60 minutes
How often: Weekly — the sequence builds, so consistency matters
Typical commitment: 6 weeks, with an optional check-in at 3 months
Cost: Intro call: freeSession rates are confirmed on your intro call.Sliding scale available — no one is turned away for cost. Can be paid per session.

Who it is for

You will recognise yourself here

None of these need to apply exactly. If one is close enough that you nodded, that is enough to start a conversation.

Couples whose arguments escalate faster than either of them intends
Partners who go silent for days after a disagreement
Homes where children are witnessing the conflict
Couples who have done insight-based work and now want concrete tools

What you work through

Inside peaceful couples

Not a syllabus we impose — a set of themes we move between depending on what you bring.

Week 1 — Catching it early
Learning your own escalation signals in the body, and how to name a conversation as heading downhill before it gets there.
Week 2 — The pause that works
How to take a break without it feeling like abandonment: what to say, how long, and the commitment to come back that makes a pause safe.
Week 3 — Complaining without contempt
Raising a real grievance in a way your partner can hear. We rewrite your actual recent arguments, not textbook examples.
Week 4 — Listening under pressure
Staying present when you are being criticised, and reflecting back accurately before you defend yourself.
Week 5 — Repair and re-entry
The conversation after the argument. This is the week most couples say changes things most.
Week 6 — Keeping it
Building the small weekly rhythms that keep the new pattern in place once the sessions stop.

Questions

About peaceful couples

Something not covered? Ask us — there is no obligation attached to a question.

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What makes this different from marriage coaching?

Marriage coaching is open-ended and shaped around whatever you bring. Peaceful Couples is a fixed curriculum with homework. If conflict is the main issue, start here; if the picture is broader, start with marriage coaching.

Do we have to commit to all six weeks?

We ask you to, because the skills build on each other and week five depends on weeks one to four. You can pay session by session.

Is there homework?

Yes — roughly 20–30 minutes a week, done together. Couples who do it get noticeably more from the programme, and we would rather be upfront about that.

Our arguments sometimes frighten me. Is this right for us?

Please read our safety note first and talk to us before booking. If there is fear, intimidation or any physical aggression in your relationship, couples work can raise the risk to you rather than lower it. We will help you find the right support instead — that conversation is confidential.

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